never fail to be kind

[never fail to be kind]

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This blog is pro-kindness, pro-queer, and pro-fiction.  Good-faith identities should be respected, and it’s okay to like/enjoy imaginary things that would be bad in real life.  If you’re an exclusionist or an anti, you probably won’t like this blog.  No DNI, though, and you generally won’t get blocked unless you say something rude/bigoted directly to us.

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[never fail to be kind]

Anonymous asked:

Happy Friday! I hope your week went well! I noticed that your SubscribeStar doesn't show anything posted and says you're "no longer active." Is that something you'll be coming back to, or are you taking a break for a while or moving on to something else? I'm just a bit curious.

Hey! Yeah, our CFS got really bad and we had to stop working completely. We’ve contacted the people who were subscribed. Sorry for the short and possibly alarming answer, but - we’re okay, we’ve got it figured out, and thank you for caring! <3

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Anonymous asked:

Hi, are you alright?? You haven’t been active anywhere for a while. Happy new year. I hope you’re doing well. 🥺

hoarder-of-danmei answered:

Hey! Yes, I’m okay! Thank you for caring.

I’m actually doing really well. I’ve continued my medical transition, and strengthened old friendships, and found wonderful new ones, and learned to be gentler with myself.

I’ve been focusing on things that make me happy. Unfortunately, this account just reminds me too much of being harassed. :( I’m not going to completely abandon it anytime soon - I’m actually working on a fic to post on AO3 in the next few days - but I’ve been trying not to log in very often.

But again, I’m doing really well. Things are going great for me! I’m just not posting about them on here.

I hope you’re doing well!! Happy New Year to you, too! ❤️

[never fail to be kind]

[hoarder-of-stories-27]

[id: a meme with people crowding into one door while leaving the other one empty.  The empty door is labeled “anything else”, the full door is labeled “celebrating the Destiel anniversary”, and the people are labeled “Tumblr users on Nov 5″]

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[genderpunks]

trans people are stronger together. my irl best friend had one of their nephlings come out to him as gender non conforming, then finally felt comfortable to admit that she's a trans girl and she was ready to embrace it after seeing my friend come out as a trans guy. my friend was able to tell her that he could always just tell that she was always 'like him'. it took him coming out to give her that courage, and knowing that she has support in him, SOMEWHERE in her family. her knowing that she has support gave her the strength to be honest to and about herself.

this is the "point" of being trans. we are stronger together. when one of us comes out and loudly and proudly admits who we are, it gives others who are scared the courage to do the same, or at the very least, acknowledge internally who they are. not everyone has the ability to come out to others safely, but being there to give someone who can the courage to do so is a joy, a service, and an honor. even just by being who you are, you can inspire others to do the same, and give them the strength they wouldn't have been able to find otherwise.

[never fail to be kind]

[fella-lovin-fella]

testosterone is so cool. i barely had any body hair pre-T so watching it grow is so amusing and surprising. like?? it grows there???? people have ELBOW HAIR?????

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[swoopyswish]

i love when random tumblr users find my blog and go through it liking and reblogging everything in a frenzy, it feels like i’ve been cultivating a nice backyard with a lovely birdbath and feeder and i’ve glanced out the window to see a bird going absolutely wild with it

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[soberscientistlife]

THIS ☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼

Anything else is child abuse.

[darkwingatlarge]

ok yes, but why mom’s nip showing through her sheer blouse???

[anger-birb]

god forbid women to anything

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[taproot-bread]

Weighted blanket is not enough I need someone to do this to me

[catboygirlboy]

ID: A colourless digital drawing of a person being rolled flat by a rolling pin that is held by a pair of larger disembodied hands. end ID

[taproot-bread]

This has been circyling around the autism community AND the chronic pain community. Target audience has been met

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[theslowesthnery]

anyway tumblr still doesn't do anything about suicide baiting but hey at least tiddies are banned

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[sic-semper-hominibus]

this is gonna sound like a shitpost but the best advice i have if youre consistently coming off wrong is to start talking like an elcor

you will feel like a dumdum at first, but once you get used to it youll realize that telling people what kind of thing you're about to say ahead of time flattens their anxiety a huge amount

ive been starting every question with "question:" for awhile now and i almost never get people reading too much into what i mean anymore

it seems super dumb, but "what are your plans tomorrow?" gets people asking me what i have planned despite me obviously being in the process of figuring that out, whereas "question: what are your plans tomorrow?" gets me a quick rundown of their schedule, followed by "why?"

it also makes it really easy to work tone indicators into your verbal speech. if you're always saying "question: [your question here]?" then no one blinks when you say "genuine question: [question that could read as sarcastic]?"

it also gets you out of your own way for any types of things you struggle to say. "can you make sure to do the dishes before you go to bed?" feels like an argument waiting to happen, but "request: can you make sure to do the dishes before you go to bed?" gets the words flowing on a neutral word while making it clear that you're not looking for a fight

so yeah. suggestion: talk like an elcor

[sic-semper-hominibus]

i said "suggestion for you if you havent thought of it:" today so im reblogging this

[softness-and-shattering]

Useful addition: "this is not a guilt trip or moral judgement, just checking facts: have you done the dishes".

Or "Just checking if I need to, have you done the dishes today"

Or "please do the dishes, Im not upset I just need a plate".

Being clear about your intentions this way also heads off RSD or trauma-type anxiety, guilt, frustration, demand-avoidance, fear, etc.

Another phrasing useful for when you are emotional is "Im definitely frustrated, but Im not frustrated at you because I know you're doing your best."

Of course it only really works if you genuinely mean it.

[sic-semper-hominibus]

you get me

[catgirlwheels]

Genuine delight: elcor my beloved